Can't decide?
I'll do it.

Mexican. Italian date nights tend to be heavy — too much bread, and trying to look smooth eating pasta is risky. Mexican has better menu variety (want something light? shrimp tacos — there's no such thing as light Italian), plus margaritas and a more upbeat vibe. People like the IDEA of a romantic Italian dinner, but what they actually like is a vibrant Mexican spot with good energy. Don't fill up on chips and tell him Italian can be next week.

Keep the job. You're not really asking "should I start a candle business" — you're asking "should I bet my rent on candles." Those are different questions. Start making candles on evenings and weekends. Sell to friends first, then try an Etsy shop or local markets. Track your actual costs and profit per candle. When the side income consistently covers your monthly expenses, that's when you put in your notice. Your day job isn't the thing holding you back — it's the thing funding your runway.

Your wife goes. People absolutely bring spouses to reunions — she's wrong on that one. But she's probably not wrong that she won't have a great time standing around while you catch up with people she's never met. So here's the deal: she comes, you make a real effort to include her in conversations, and you agree to leave at a reasonable time. Don't abandon her at the appetizer table while you disappear with your old buddies. If you want her there, make it worth her while. Maybe plan something she actually wants to do the next day as a thank you.